Speaking as a woman, who believes in the strength of other women:
I feel like sometimes whenever a female character is dramatic in a work situation or acts immaturely around a guy, the writer of the character is slammed for writing a character that is anti-feminist, because…
Bryarly, I have no memory of if you're attending Summer in the City or not, though I'm guessing not cause, well, distance... This saddens me as I want to meet ALL of the Sarcaschicks. You are inspirations to me. (Without me being all fanboyish) Oh! And I liked that Superhero wedding thing ^__^ I want one like that too.
I would love to be there : ( But alas! I cannot. Don’t worry; one day all the sarcaschicks will be together in our glory and the world will implode due to the force of our love.
im sorry if this is a personal question, i don't want to seem nosy, just curious. Are you in a long distance relationship? I've been following your tumblr for a while and you seem to have some really good advice on the matter, just wondering if it was from experience.
I’ve had about 3 long-distance relationships, but only one has been particularly successful. I’ll be making a video on LDRs in the upcoming months!
Paige pointed me in your direction for this. I am starting to get into a serious long distance relationship. Do you have any insight or advice you could provide?
I do indeed! Here are my four biggest pieces of advice; if you need more, feel free to ask for more specific things.
Here we go : )
1. Set a date by which you have to be in the same place. It’s easier to deal with distance if you can go, “Okay, I only have to do this for insert-time-here.” If you’re still apart when that time rolls around, you need to assess your relationship and decide if you want to keep going or if you want to set a new “end date.”
2. Talk every day. EVERY DAY. Whether it’s text, phone, carrier pigeon, smoke signal (my favorite is skype), you must say something to the person you’re with every single day.*
3. When you’re upset, bring it up when it’s applicable rather than waiting until you’re in person. You don’t want to spend what little time you do get together being upset. Long-distance couples have speed bumps too, and you need to, as John Green says, “Use your words.” Even if you can’t have make-up sex. (Which is, of course, very sad.) If you should happen to break up, do it by video call or phone call. Waiting until you’re in person just means someone spent a lot of money on a trip to get dumped.
4. This is the most important one, so pay attention. Trust your partner. Long-distance relationships require a lot of trust, a lot of communication, and a lot of commitment. You must believe that your partner loves and wants to be with you just as much as you love and want to be with them. Nothing makes a long-distance relationship harder than trying to prove that you really are faithful or in love or whatever.
*Talking every day doesn’t work for everyone. Some people just aren’t that chatty. If that’s the case, don’t talk for as long every day - maybe 20 minutes instead of 60. But do try to say something. Boring stories about your day may be dull when the other person’s there, but when they’re absent it’s the only chance they have to learn about what’s going on in your life.
So every once in a while, someone (or a couple of someones) will get it into their heads that it’d be cool to come visit us in real life by tracking down our addresses and knocking on our doors, or leaving presents on our doorstep or in our mail box.
Oooh, oooh, I'm gonna hijack anonymous person's idea and suggest an audiobook version of John Green's Zombicorns! It's under creative commons license, so I'm pretty sure that's allowed, and as far as I'm aware there isn't an audio version yet (beyond John reading the first couple pages), and it's fairly short. I was going to do this, but decided against it when I remembered I have a horrible southern accent. :/
Hum. Do you…wanna ask him? I don’t want to inadvertently steal anything from John.